Child hood trauma can affect your life for years and years until you start to actively work on healing whether it's spiritual, emotional, mental, physical, or sexual abuse that cause this traumatic experience, it can affect the way you act, think, talk, or view yourself. It can cause you to have anxiety, PTSD, depression, emotional issues, dissociation, low self esteem, sleeping disorders, difficult forming relationships, addictions & substance abuse, and even physical health issues. This can also affect the subconscious mind as well, leaving your mental state in flight or fight mode. It also can make you emotional unstable, or close off, or spiritually damage.

Trauma can also cause us to have unhealthy attachments & codependency issues to people, places, & things that are not good for our overall well being.

Here are 3 attachment styles that trauma can manifest as:

-Anxious Attachment

Someone who has an anxious attachment style has trouble trusting others. This could be displayed through them becoming codependent or clingy, even possessive, in their relationships. They might also be constantly seeking validation from others. Or, have a fear of being abandon. People with this attachment style might text or call their kids, lover, or parents many times. Or, follow them places and question them over and over. It can be exhausting as they need an overly amount of validation and reassurance.

-Avoidant Attachment

Someone who has an avoidant attachment style is prone to withdraw, or disconnect from others. They tend to keep their distance from others. They see others as too dependent, which frightens them. Individuals with an avoidant attachment style have fear of loss. As a result, it is masked as strong independence. They also reduce their own needs for connection. Their behavior might look like they're unable to commit to a relationship. Or, being too particular or picky about another’s habits, keeping secrets, and avoiding. They might even seem distant. For example, if you ask how their day was, they will answer with one word like "fine." People with this attachment style might also have trouble being emotionally available to others. They may also have an issue being emotionally intimate with others as they fear getting too close to people.

-Anxious-Avoidant Attachment

For someone who has an anxious-avoidant attachment style (or disorganized attachment style), they face an internal battle of both anxious and avoidant tendencies. They desire closeness. But, once it's there, they become frightened or overwhelmed. Then they tend to push others away.

They want closeness, but it's also the thing that scares them the most. So, this can lead them into a cycle of needing closeness, and wanting distance. They may not even understand why they feel this way. For example, they might pursue someone they are attracted to. But, once they get close, they become distant. Then they may repeat this cycle and not know why they are doing it.

Having attachment issues can look different for everyone depending on the difference of trauma everyone has experience. Do the trauma we experience as a child, it they often manifest in romantic relationships. But, it can show up in other types of relationships as well. Here are some examples of they show up:

-Difficulty with being vulnerable, and expressing in intimacy

-Feeling guarded, closed off, and distant in relationships

-Difficulty forming emotional connection with others.

This can heavily affect children that's in foster care, or place in adoption to have attachment issues.

You can heal trauma by practicing mindfulness practices such as breathing techniques, meditation, yoga more.